Once I Stopped Drinking, I Started to Love Dating

My First Essay for Refinery29 is Out Now

Hi friends,

Check out my latest for Refinery29 here: https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2022/02/10841430/sober-dating-better-benefits

Support looks like: 

1. Texting the essay to a friend 

2. Sharing the essay on social (& tagging Refinery29)

3. Sending the essay to your fav sober and relationship influencers and celebs!

Over the weeks, I’ve come to see that this essay isn’t actually about “sober dating,” it’s just about dating. I don’t “sober drink coffee” or “sober dance” or “sober write.” I actually don’t need to use the modifier “sober” before an activity. My life isn’t “sober living,” it’s a life. 

It seems obvious, but this small choice of words signals to me a real transformation in how I perceive myself. Thank you for reading and supporting this evolution towards acceptance. 

writing update:

• I spoke on ABC News about the growing sober movement

• I spoke on NPR about sober curiosity

• Check out my new writing website here!

• Accountability Ask: I’m putting together a book proposal. In the next three months, I’d like to make real progress towards the book. Please hold me accountable. 

quick hits:

• Location / Time: 5:45 pm in Barcelona, Spain

• What I’m Eating: Milla’s Lunch, this amazing vegan lunch that’s handmade by Milla and delivered to your house everyday for 7 euros

• What I’m Reading: Coming to My Senses by Alice Waters, thank you Abena!

• What I’m Celebrating: So much. Decorating the flat of my dreams in Barcelona. Lindsay MacMillan’s two-book deal (pre-order her first book here!) Sunshine. Health. Safety.

• What I’m Praying for: Ukraine.