I have a small handful of friends who are "easy" . . . We can literally go years without seeing each other in person, but then pick right up as though it was only yesterday. Lifers.
I have also found all of what you've said to be true, especially after living in different countries you can expect friendships to fizzle but the good ones find miraculous ways of continuing despite distance and can feel more secure that ones more close.
A bit behind on my reading, but another great piece full of wisdom and meaningful reflection! So incredible blessed to have your parents as treasured friends - it's always been easy with them. I have framed card that says, "friends are the family we choose for yourself." and your parents and family are just that - family. Your Mom drove over two hours to give me a hug and fruit basket during my dad's final days in the hospital and recently both parents showed up with lunch during my mother's hospital stay. Those are priceless gifts that still make me cry because they just get what you need at the time - with no expectations or fanfare. May you always have joyful friendships! Always look forward to your next reflection. :)XO.
Love this! I think it can be hard when someone is wanting new friends, eg. Move to a new city. You can’t start off in this “ease” phase. Someone needs to initiate and it has to be a bit unbalanced because someone is starting over!
Fascinating. And full of truth. Very few of my friends over the years have had ‘expectations’ of me. I certainly don’t expect anything from them either. We just Are. We mightn’t see each other for years but when we catch up again it’s joyous and easy.
I think social media has created some strange beliefs and expectations in young people. I’m so glad that you’ve worked out what actually matters. Take care dear Sarah. Sending heaps of hugs and best wishes. 🤗🤗😘💕
Well said! I was much older than you when I realized ending a friendship could be an important step in self care, and didn't make me a bad person or a failure.
I have a small handful of friends who are "easy" . . . We can literally go years without seeing each other in person, but then pick right up as though it was only yesterday. Lifers.
I have also found all of what you've said to be true, especially after living in different countries you can expect friendships to fizzle but the good ones find miraculous ways of continuing despite distance and can feel more secure that ones more close.
A bit behind on my reading, but another great piece full of wisdom and meaningful reflection! So incredible blessed to have your parents as treasured friends - it's always been easy with them. I have framed card that says, "friends are the family we choose for yourself." and your parents and family are just that - family. Your Mom drove over two hours to give me a hug and fruit basket during my dad's final days in the hospital and recently both parents showed up with lunch during my mother's hospital stay. Those are priceless gifts that still make me cry because they just get what you need at the time - with no expectations or fanfare. May you always have joyful friendships! Always look forward to your next reflection. :)XO.
Perfect timing and this is exactly what I needed to hear.
Thank you so much for reading and I’m so delighted to hear it resonated
Love this! I think it can be hard when someone is wanting new friends, eg. Move to a new city. You can’t start off in this “ease” phase. Someone needs to initiate and it has to be a bit unbalanced because someone is starting over!
Totally agree! First effort, and then ease!
Fascinating. And full of truth. Very few of my friends over the years have had ‘expectations’ of me. I certainly don’t expect anything from them either. We just Are. We mightn’t see each other for years but when we catch up again it’s joyous and easy.
I think social media has created some strange beliefs and expectations in young people. I’m so glad that you’ve worked out what actually matters. Take care dear Sarah. Sending heaps of hugs and best wishes. 🤗🤗😘💕
LOVED this. So much I can relate to. Friendship comes from a place of abundance!!🤍
Love this. Thanks for describing. Some very good reminders. 👍😎
Well said! I was much older than you when I realized ending a friendship could be an important step in self care, and didn't make me a bad person or a failure.
So good, thanks for writing this!
This is exactly how I feel about my friends! You described the balance between ease and effort so well.